What was the biggest misconception you had about sex/sexuality when you were younger?
Up until about 18 months ago I believed and/or convinced myself that sex, sexual attraction, and being intentional about having sex often, and talking about sex were no big deal in a relationship. I was married and had what I would say was a weak sex life, and then almost no sex life at all. I've since changed my tune on that, as I believe this caused my husband and me to disconnect. In the last year I've gotten divorced and am now with someone else with whom sex is acknowledged as very important in our relationship.
If you could give any piece of advice to your younger self what would it be?
Satisfying sexual relationships are important! But this takes work. Sex should be talked about, and not brushed under the rug if things are amiss in any way. This can be awkward or emotionally painful at times when hard things need to be discussed, but this is how you build trust and intimacy.
If you could give any piece of advice to your future older self what would it be?
Don't forget or let go of making yourself feel sexy. It's largely up to me to make sure I feel sexy and sexual. Keep having sex and be sure to enjoy it. If you don't enjoy it, figure that shit out immediately!
What are you scared of?
My partner no longer feeling sexually attracted to me. I'm sad to admit, but I'm afraid this will damage my sense of identity and self worth to not be attractive to my partner. I'm also afraid that he would then leave me for someone he is more attracted to.
What makes you the most comfortable in bed?
Feeling hot, sexy, and attractive, and getting the vibe from my partner that he wants me like crazy.
What is something you feel pressured to enjoy but don't actually?
Oral sex. Thinking about it now, it's funny that I haven't said anything about this yet. Occasionally my partner will go down on me and I just sort of wait it out and make the appropriate noises. I think it’s something I like the idea of less than the actual feeling of it.
If forced to choose, what's the single best moment of sex?
I'm torn between the moment when his cock first enters me and I'm so desperate for it, and the moment when I feel that I'm definitely about to cum so I just give into it.
What's your favorite position?
Depends on the day, but I love either being on top or sometimes on my side with him behind me.
What's something people would be surprised to hear turns you on?
My boyfriend's waist.
What's something on your sexual wish list you haven't tried yet, and why haven't you tried it?
I want to try anal, because i think it would be hot, but I can't get passed thinking the hole is just too small and can't possibly stretch that wide.
What's the first movie scene that ever turned you on?
For some reason I think it must have been something from The Lion King (yes the Disney animation). I don't know what part it would have been, but I remember thinking that Scar was hot for some reason.
Time to give yourself a pat on the back: what are you best at in bed?
Teasing his cock and making him desperate.
In honor of our motto, what does "claim your pleasure" mean to you?
It means knowing that you deserve to have sex that excites and satisfies you, both in the moment and as a human being. It also means being able to explore your own desires and continually pursue that pleasure in whatever way you're comfortable with.