What was the biggest misconception you had about sex/sexuality when you were younger?
Female orgasm was missing from my school sex ed. I thought that a woman orgasmed once the sperm fertilized the egg.
If you could give any piece of advice to your younger self what would it be?
Relax. Don't waste your time with premature ejaculators. Expect orgasms.
If you could give any piece of advice to your future older self what would it be?
Don't forget your sense of fun, and don't settle.
What are you scared of?
Sexually? Maybe STIs and pregnancy. Oh, and probably being sexually assaulted. I guess my first answer was in relation to a consensual situation.
What makes you the most comfortable in bed?
Being with someone who helps me relax, with who I feel safe. So, I guess, a lot of open communication. Having someone who listens to what my mouth and my body say I like. Knowing that our experience together will be give/give not give/take.
What is something you feel pressured to enjoy but don't actually?
I try not to do things that I don't enjoy. For example I only suck dick when I can't resist it. If I'm not enjoying a sex act, I'll say.
If forced to choose, what's the single best moment of sex?
Hmm. Hard one. Either the lead up, when I can feel my lover is aroused (hard in their pants, or wet in their knickers), or just before orgasm.
What's your favorite position?
Depends who I'm with. But my most favorite with someone I like and find irresistible, is to be giving them head while I use my vibrator and my partner stimulates my vulva at the same time.
What's something people would be surprised to hear turns you on?
Umm I like amateur porn, dirty talk and when things get a little rough- hands around my neck. Oh and tying each other up. But more generally, someone undoing laces on boots, and sweeping their hair out of their face.
What's something on your sexual wish list you haven't tried yet, and why haven't you tried it?
Having someone with a tongue ring go down on me. Just haven't had the opportunity. Oh, and I'd like to have another threesome.
What's the first movie scene that ever turned you on?
Jamie Lee Curtis in True Lies. Damn.
Time to give yourself a pat on the back: what are you best at in bed?
Umm, I'm told I'm pretty good at giving head.
In honor of our motto, what does "claim your pleasure" mean to you?
Enjoy your desires and let them out. Only share your pleasure with those who want to help you grow, don't fuck anyone who kink shames you or isn't interested in your desires. Be in control of your own orgasm.