The One Who Thinks Less Is More

How old are you? 
28

Where are you from?
US

What do you do for a living?
journalist

Gender?
female

Sexual Orientation?
straight

What was the biggest misconception you had about sex/sexuality when you were younger?
A tie between a) the idea that sex should be reserved for married couples and b) that sexuality is binary.

If you could give any piece of advice to your younger self what would it be?
Don't worry so much about fitting in. The cool and pretty crowd in middle/high school are typically not such post-college and you will come to love the traits that make you different.

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If you could give any piece of advice to your future older self what would it be?
The monotony of middle adulthood scares me, so I'd say: Don't lose your vigour, sexually or otherwise. If life feels uninspiring, you can always change your reality.

What are you scared of?
In general, regret.

What makes you the most comfortable in bed?
An open mind in bed, a closed mouth after. I want to feel that I can be sexy or goofy, experimental or low-key without judgement (from my partner or their circle).

What is something you feel pressured to enjoy but don't actually?
Very lengthy or numerous sex sessions. Popular culture tells us that the best sex lasts all night, but there is most definitely a law of diminishing returns in play for myself and the women I know.

If forced to choose, what's the single best moment of sex?
Tough! Maybe the first few seconds a penis enters the vagina. This depends on size and speed, of course, but I do love this moment with my current partner.

What's your favorite position?
Not sure I have one favorite. I like different positions for various things.

What's something people would be surprised to hear turns you on?
Anal play.

What's something on your sexual wish list you haven't tried yet, and why haven't you tried it?
Sex with a woman. I've not tried because the opportunity just didn't arise. I'm lower on the Kinsey Scale and have never been interested in an emotional relationship with a woman, so never put great effort into fulfilling this fantasy. Would be hot though!

What's the first movie scene that ever turned you on?
Oh man, probably some scene with a Disney prince when I was in elementary school. However, that's been subconsciously repressed and the first scene I remember turning me on was Jack and Rose in the car in Titanic.

Time to give yourself a pat on the back: what are you best at in bed?
I'd say giving head. I enjoy it for a variety of reasons-- selfless pleasure for your partner, giver is both in a position of power and submissiveness, etc.-- and think that makes all the difference.

In honor of our motto, what does "claim your pleasure" mean to you?
To me, "claim your pleasure" could be the rally-cry response to Western sex-related issues today. I have always been curious about sex and sexuality (something my parents might say was borderline problematic when I was younger), but I'm grateful for it. As a teen, I looked up the things I didn't know (via both porn and more reliable sources), masturbated, and learned about my body. I believe am more confident in my sexual experiences as a result. I know that I can be that open minded and accepting partner I myself want, that I can provide someone else with intense pleasure, and that I should receive pleasure myself. We've got one life and it can be damn tough. Pleasure isn't optional and passion isn't frivolous.


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