The One Who Disconnects While You're Down There

How old are you?
30

Where are you from?
australia

What do you do for a living?
marketing

Gender?
female

Sexual Orientation?
hetero

What was the biggest misconception you had about sex/sexuality when you were younger?
I remember being totally taken aback the first time I had sex that my partner wanted to stay over afterwards and be close to me. It still freaks me out that I anticipated abandonment even before I lost my virginity. I'm sure a psych would have plenty to say about that one!

If you could give any piece of advice to your younger self what would it be?
Use the words “no” and “fuck” more.

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If you could give any piece of advice to your future older self what would it be?
I hope you've ticked all those things off your sexual to do list, lady.

What are you scared of?
Even in super trusting, loving relationships, I've always found it difficult to be completely naked and just still in front of my partner. It feels incredibly exposing, but then it's also something I fantasize about a lot.

What makes you the most comfortable in bed?
When my partner really talks to me, and asks me what I want, and tells me what they want. Makes me really comfortable and it's also incredibly arousing.

What is something you feel pressured to enjoy but don't actually?
I'm trying to get better at receiving oral sex. I find it often makes me feel disconnected from my partner when I most want to feel close to them. Like, “Hey! I'm missing you up here!”

If forced to choose, what's the single best moment of sex?
Initial penetration. (Especially when I've had to wait for it.)

What's your favorite position?
No idea what it's called, but a slightly more athletic version of being spooned from behind.

What's something people would be surprised to hear turns you on?
Belts? Or other instruments of restriction.

What's something on your sexual wish list you haven't tried yet, and why haven't you tried it?
Probably having a partner use a dildo on me. Always a hard one to work into hetero sex, I think.

What's the first movie scene that ever turned you on?
[Pretty Woman] Julia Roberts and Richard Gere on the piano. Hands down.

Time to give yourself a pat on the back: what are you best at in bed?
That's a hard one. This question still inspires a bit of teenage angst in me (I've been asked too many times by drunk men at parties, maybe), but I think my truest answer is that I'm really fucking present during sex. (No pun intended.)

In honor of our motto, what does "claim your pleasure" mean to you?
Knowing what you want and how to ask for it.